Of Self-Imposed Deadlines and Poor Success Rates

Currently listening to: Empire by Shakira

One complete first draft.

That’s the goal I’ve been aiming toward since…oh, I don’t know. Something like August 2014. In fairness, I was neck-deep in work on Songstruck for a while, but I’ve been more or less free of editing and publishing concerns for that novel since the beginning of January. So I have no excuse for my lack of productivity since then.

But I’ve been working on the sequel to Songstruck, and now I’m hitting a point on that manuscript that I once hit while writing Songstruck. I just don’t feel like writing it. I know what I want to write. I know what scenes need to be trimmed that are already written. I know all of it, but I can’t get myself to do it. I am on a deadline, though, and I’ve given myself plenty of time to reach it. My goal is to have the first draft of the sequel (which I suppose I can mention is to be called Stagestruck) finished by New Year’s Eve of this year.

Why so far away? Well, first because in all fairness, I am busy. Graduate school is fairly demanding. Also, since I participate in NaNoWriMo, I manage to write a lot in the month of November. Around 90% of Songstruck was written in November of 2013. November is the part of the year where I am most motivated to write, no matter what other obligations I have at the time, because there is such a huge community of other people doing exactly the same thing.

I’ve also put the deadline there because I’ve found over the years that when I put myself on a deadline for a big project (like writing an entire manuscript), I don’t meet it. And then I get frustrated and discouraged. Smaller goals, like getting Songstruck published on Christmas Eve (the goal was technically before the new year in general, not just before Christmas), are much easier to manage, because in cases like that, the bulk of the work was already finished. But if I tell myself that I need to finish the first draft of Stagestruck by, say, June 1? Life will inevitably get in the way, and I won’t get around to finishing it for whatever reason. I don’t like missing deadlines, but I also don’t like giving myself goals like “type 30 pages by X date”. And so I put the deadline somewhere I can certainly reach, for the whole completed project.

I’m sure others are just the opposite of me, and set smaller deadlines. Or perhaps you work better by setting a bigger deadline sooner, to push you to work on the project more? Or something else? Maybe some of you shun deadlines of any sort? Let me know!

~Sofia

50 Shades of Disappointment and Mild Nausea

Full disclosure from the beginning: I cannot stand 50 Shades of Grey. I will not purchase the books. I will not watch the movie. I will not listen to friends of mine with frankly questionable tastes in literature gush over anything 50 Shades related to me. I have read the first book, to my intense regret. Beyond that, I couldn’t force myself to read more, though I’ve read thorough plot summaries of the other books. But given the movie’s recent release, making a post on the franchise seems to be the thing to do, so here we go. Plus, if I have to see one more person on my Facebook newsfeed commenting about what a great romance it is, I might actually be physically ill.

Point blank, in addition to being, in my opinion, startlingly poorly written, 50 Shades depicts a wildly abusive relationship, and it is really concerning to me that it’s marketed as a romance with a sexy BDSM twist. 50 Shades is not BDSM. It is, at best, a male abuser disguising his abusive urges as BDSM. I don’t have a problem with BDSM in an of itself. What consenting adults do in their bedrooms is entirely their own business. “Consenting” is the key word there, and it’s what is sorely lacking from so much of 50 Shades. I’m just going to go through a few of the myriad issues I recall from my read of the first book. I’ll also have a supposedly-unbiased summary from elsewhere on the internet to help me make sure I don’t put in anything that I just imagined, or anything like that.

  1. Grey is a stalker. Really. There’s just no way around it. Ana has never seen him at her place of work before, and literally the same day she meets him, he shows up and buys a sketchy array of items (which I’m sure was meant to hint at the later “BDSM”, but for the record, at least some of those items would be bad choices for bondage because of the risk of them becoming too tight and doing damage, or other such issues). He sends her a package–did she ever give him her address? He comes to pick her up when she’s drunk, despite her never telling him where she was (and then that turns into another deeply troubling incident). More stalking follows in the next books, with such “loving” actions as purchasing her place of work in order to keep a closer eye on her even though she walked out on their relationship.
  2. The non-disclosure contract. It all kinds of unacceptable, and serves–more than anything–as assurance for Grey that Ana won’t voice her concerns or confusion or unease to anyone else. It effectively cuts her off from all of her support networks in regards to her dealings with Grey. It somehow isn’t enough for him that he’s already stalked her, manipulated her from the word “go”, and shown extremely possessive tendencies almost immediately after he met her. He needs to make sure that she keeps his behavior toward her a secret. Because he probably knows that it’s straight-up abuse.
  3. Ana doesn’t have a laptop or email address until the wonderfully-generous Grey gifts her with a laptop. What? She’s a college student. Many colleges these days require that you have a laptop. Every college requires an email address. Hell–they provide them! Honestly, this almost bothers me more than anything else in the book. I mean, seriously. I’ve had an email address since I was 10, and I can guarantee you that every single college student in the US has one. E.L. James seems to know about as much about technology as she does about BDSM (and, for that matter, as much as Ana knows about…anything at all). No email address.
  4. Ana’s inner goddess and her subconscious regularly party in her conscious mind. What? And she curses like an elementary school student, which is just really odd. I’m lumping these two together because they’re right up there with the laptop/email address thing
  5. Grey rapes Ana. There are multiple points in the book where Ana vocalizes that she does not like what Grey is doing, and he keeps going regardless. And there’s when he shows up in her apartment (stalking again…) after she breaks up with him (she was joking, but he had no way of knowing that; from his perspective, she rejected him) and despite her verbally saying “no” repeatedly, he has sex with her. Which is rape.
  6. Grey ignores Ana’s wishes and deliberately abuses her. Similar to the point above, but a bit more focused on the supposed BDSM. At one point, Grey asks Ana how she felt when he was hitting her. She tells him that she did not like it and says that she doesn’t want him to do it again. His response, in an actual, healthy BDSM relationship would be to discuss her feelings, respect them, and adjust accordingly in future play. Instead, he tells her, point-blank that she wasn’t meant to enjoy it. He continues to treat her similarly throughout the book. That is not BDSM. That is abuse. Knowing your partner does not enjoy being hurt and doing it anyway is not sexy, it is not kinky. It is physical abuse.
  7. Seriously, Grey hits almost every point on any “signs of an abusive partner” list you will find on any domestic abuse resource ever. That’s not love, that’s not kink. It’s just abuse.
  8. Grey knows damn good and well after their third meeting or so that Ana is unimaginably naive, inexperienced in just about everything, and obviously has no clue about BDSM. But he pursues her anyway, manipulates her, stalks her, puts her into sexual situations she is blatantly uncomfortable with knowing that she is uncomfortable with them, and shows zero regard for her consent/lack thereof

And this is being marketed and sold to massive numbers of people as a love story. Grey is being represented as a desirable boyfriend/lover/husband when he is, in fact, an entirely unrepentant abuser with no boundary issues. Ana is prey to him, and is treated as such.

First Goodreads Review of Songstruck

I got my first review on Goodreads, and it’s even a good one! 😛

The review can be found here, but beware. There is a hidden section of the review, and when it says “spoiler”, it MEANS it. Key plot points are mentioned and reacted to, so don’t read it unless you’ve read the book. Or you’re one of those people who sometimes likes to spoil themselves (I do it, too, sometimes!).

A longer post of some kind will come later this week.

~Sofia